How to Get Rid of Self Doubt

How to Get Rid of Self Doubt

Andy’s wife, feeling a sense of doubting herself, goes out and buys a new line of expensive cosmetics guaranteed to make her look years younger. After a lengthy sitting before the mirror applying the “miracle” products, she asks her husband, “Darling, honestly, if you didn’t know me, what age would you say I am?” Looking over her carefully, Andy replied, “Judging from your skin, 20; your hair, 18; and your figure, 25.” “Oh, you flatterer!” she gushed. Just as she was about to tell Andy his reward, he stops her by saying … “WHOA, hold on there, sweetie!” Andy interrupted. “I haven’t added them up yet!” How often do you doubt yourself? You’re not alone. I think we all do. At times we feel confident about ourselves and other times we feel very unsure about our talents, our looks and maybe even our personhood. Madison Avenue has a great way of telling us, we don’t measure up, and we need their products to feel confident again. I always wonder, who am I trying to measure up to? Some doubting can be good. It makes us question things; examine our beliefs, or our behavior. But toxic doubting can be very destructive to our soul. “Good doubt is doubt that leads to constructive action,” In other words, good doubt works. “Toxic doubt does just the opposite. It paralyzes you. You brood, you ruminate, and you wake up in the middle of the night. Toxic Self Doubt Damages our health Causes the object of doubting to consume your thoughts Disrupt your productivity Reduces your ability to trust God When we start self...

The Hidden Truth to Self Discovery

  A man was being tailgated by a stressed out woman on a busy boulevard. Suddenly, the light turned yellow, just in front of him. He did the right thing, stopping at the cross walk, even though he could have beaten the red light by accelerating through the intersection. The tailgating woman was furious and honked her horn, screaming in frustration, as she missed her chance to get through the intersection, dropping her cell phone and makeup. As she was still in mid-rant, she heard a tap on her window and looked up into the face of a very serious police officer. The officer ordered her to exit her car with her hands up. He took her to the police station where she was searched, fingerprinted, photographed, and placed in a holding cell. After a couple of hours, a policeman approached the cell and opened the door. She was escorted back to the booking desk where the arresting officer was waiting with her personal effects. He said, ‘I’m very sorry for this mistake. You see, I pulled up behind your car while you were blowing your horn, flipping off the guy in front of you, and cussing a blue streak at him.’ I noticed the ‘What Would Jesus Do’ bumper sticker, the ‘Choose Life’ license plate holder, the ‘Follow Me to Sunday-School’ bumper sticker, and the chrome-plated Christian fish emblem on the trunk; naturally…I assumed you had stolen the car.’ We get so impatient. Marketing firms have encouraged us to reinforce the concept of immediate gratification. We are told over and over again in commercials that we don’t have...
The Secret To Get More Out of Life

The Secret To Get More Out of Life

  As I walked into the funeral home I saw a woman and a man by the casket. There was a woman sitting in a chair in the back of the room with two other adults in their 30’s standing off to the side. I went up to the couple and introduced myself, “I’m Pastor Zehr, I have been asked to do the funeral for Mr. *****”. Are you members of the family?” They told me they were  second cousins but they wanted me to know they had been very involved in taking care of the deceased over the last year. I thought it was odd that they wanted me to know (my being a guest pastor and a stranger to the family) how involved they were in his care. I asked where the wife of the deceased was and they motioned to the woman up by the casket. I went over and introduced myself explaining the funeral home had asked if I would come to officiate the service. She introduced me to the man beside her as their attorney. I had noticed on the obituary form that they had three sons. I asked if I could meet them and she explained quietly that they had a fishing trip planned and they decided they did not want to cancel. When I had talked to the wife the day before, asking her for information about her husband so I could prepare for the funeral,she had not been very forthcoming. Now I knew why. As she told me about her sons trip, my mind started getting a picture of a man...
3 Steps to Developing a Structured Plan for Self Discovery

3 Steps to Developing a Structured Plan for Self Discovery

Have you had a desire to unlock the power of knowledge and love within yourself? Have you had a desire to find inner peace and  live life to the fullest ? Here Are 3 Steps That Will Help in Your Self Discovery.   Step 1-Desire Where Focus Goes Energy Flows. You can focus on the past vs. the future .Whatever you decide to focus on will determine the outcome of your efforts. What is the desire of your heart? If you don’t have a strong desire to begin the journey you should stop here. The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to live out their desires. There is a substantial difference in being interested in something and being committed to it. Statements such as “I’d really like to make more money” or “I’d like to make a difference” or “I’d like to be closer to my kids,” or “I’d like to give up smoking,” are not enough to make your desire come into reality. These words are  just stating a preference. These statements are very weak and hold no power. The power comes when you decide to be committed. A Pig and a Chicken are walking down the road. The Chicken says, “Hey Pig, I was thinking we should open a restaurant!”. Pig replies, “Hmm, maybe, what would we call it?” The Chicken responds, “How about ‘ham-n-eggs’?” The Pig thinks for a moment and says, “No thanks. I’d be committed, but you’d only be involved! The word ‘decision’ in reality comes from the Latin root meaning to ‘cut off from’ Making a true...
How to Discover My True Self

How to Discover My True Self

A boy in the woods found an egg in a nest, he took it home and put it under a goose. It hatched a freakish creature- that had deformed feet not web like- but claw like- which made it stumble as it tried to follow the other geese. His beak was not flat like a goose should be but it was pointed and twisted. Instead of having lovely cream colored down feathers it was an ugly brown color and to top it off he made a terrible squawking sound. He seemed like a genetic freak- a disfigured goose. One day a giant eagle flew across the barnyard , the eagle swept lower and lower until the strange awkward little bird on the ground lifted his head and pointed his crooked beak to the sky. The misfit creature then stretched his wings and began to hobble across the yard. He flapped his wings harder and harder until the wind picked up him up and carried him higher and higher. He began to soar. He was born an eagle and had been trying to live like a goose- We are born to soar. Do you believe you are born to soar? Some of us have been told as we grew up; we were a certain type of person. “You’re lazy”, “you’re stupid”, “you aren’t ever going to amount to anything.” We believed what was told to us because we didn’t know any different. I grew up in a very legalistic, fundamentalist church. I was always told, I was such a sinner. I always felt worse about myself after I left church...