How to Not Become Anxious

How to Not Become Anxious

A couple vacationing in Colorado rented a tandem bicycle and decided to attack Pikes Peak. As they began the ascent, they both soaked in the Rocky Mountain sunshine and the crisp air. The difficulty of the climb hit earlier than they expected, and the thin air stole away the oxygen they desperately needed. After a seemingly unending climb, the couple finally reached the top and nearly collapsed to the ground. The wife turned around and panted, “That was the hardest climb I have ever done in my life:’ “You can say that again;’ the husband gasped. “And if I hadn’t kept the brakes on for all of it, we could have rolled backwards.” The husband was so anxious they were going to roll back wards he applied the brakes and made the bike ride harder than it had to be. A little anxiety isn’t bad, it can motivate us to move off dead center or to be sharp in our presentation but too much anxiety can be destructive. I used to be very anxious. I would sit in front of my computer and wring my hands over all the possibilities that might happen that would ruin the project I was working on. I was making my own life miserable. My anxiety was making me too tired to be productive. How you ask? When we let anxieties take over the main room in our brain and spirit. This stops us from being creative and productive. Anxiety can do that. It can paralyze us from moving forward. I started to examine what was making me so anxious. Anxiety is a secondary...
Get the Junk Out of Your Trunk

Get the Junk Out of Your Trunk

When I lived in an apartment complex we had to take our garbage to a certain location on the property. I would put my garbage in my trunk and drop it off on my way to work. One time I loaded the garbage but forgot to take it to the dumpster. It stayed in my trunk for two days. I had forgotten all about it. Finally, the smell became so strong as I was driving , it reminded me I forgot to get the garbage out of my trunk. This happens with our spiritual lives as well. We carry a bunch of garbage in the trunk of our hearts that continue to spoil and smell up our minds and spirits. How do I get the Junk out of my Trunk? Begin here… Make a list of the things that spoil your body/mind/spirit. Is it things of the past? Experiences or feelings that you feel like you cannot let go of? Is it people around you that are so toxic that you feel like you collect their garbage when you’re around them? Is it things that you are doing that are self destructive? Here is an interesting story titled, “First Things of Our Past” There was a little boy visiting his grandparents on their farm. He was given a slingshot to play with out in the woods. He practiced in the woods; but he could never hit the target. Getting a little discouraged, he headed back for dinner. As he was walking back he saw Grandma’s pet duck. Just out of impulse, he let the slingshot fly, hit the duck...
The Secret to Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

The Secret to Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Many times we have bought into a set of beliefs that might have benefited us at one time but now limit us. I Dare You by William Danforth was a book that had been given to my father when he took a course through Dale Carnegie in 1959. The table of contents had a chapter entitled, You Can Be Bigger than You Are. There were also chapters entitled, I Dare You to Build Character, I Dare You to Think Creatively, and I Dare You to Share. He gave this book to me in 1979. I have read it numerous times over the years. This was a theme my father lived by and challenged me to live by. As he grew up in a conservative Amish lifestyle he felt he wanted more in his life. He dared to leave the farm and branch out to explore the world in front of him.  My father taught me by his example to always examine the beliefs we have been taught and be open to new understandings. Are there beliefs that you have lived by but do not fit into your world view today? Here Are A Couple of Steps to See If Your Beliefs Limit You or Enrich You? 1. Do Your Beliefs Make You Feel Guilty, Shameful or Bountiful and Gracious? God doesn’t want us live in shame. God wants us to live in abundance. I was taught as a young person that we born into original sin. I was taught we were sinful in our very DNA. For the longest time I believed I was a bad person. I felt...
Living Life To The Fullest In 3 Easy Steps

Living Life To The Fullest In 3 Easy Steps

Morris and his wife Esther went to the state fair every year, and every year Morris would say, “Esther, I’d like to ride in that helicopter.” Esther always replied, “I know Morris, but that helicopter ride is fifty dollars — and fifty dollars is fifty dollars.” One year Esther and Morris went to the fair, and Morris said, “Esther, I’m 85 years old. If I don’t ride that helicopter, I might never get another chance.” Esther replied, “Morris that helicopter is fifty dollars — and fifty dollars is fifty dollars.” The pilot overheard the couple and said, “Folks I’ll make you a deal. I’ll take the both of you for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say a word I won’t charge you! But if you say one word, it’s fifty dollars.” Morris and Esther agreed and up they went. The pilot did all kinds of fancy maneuvers, but not a word was heard. He did his daredevil tricks over and over again, but still not a word. When they landed, the pilot turned to Morris and said, “By golly, I did everything I could to get you to yell out, but you didn’t. I’m impressed!” Morris replied, “Well, to tell you the truth, I almost said something when Esther fell out, but you know — fifty dollars is fifty dollars!” Is Fifty Dollars really that much to withhold from someone to fulfill something on their bucket list? We can get so focused on money that we forget that it is only a resource to achieve our dreams. Do you know people...
Ever Wondered How To Change Your Life?

Ever Wondered How To Change Your Life?

I have many people ask me,“How can I change my life?” If you have wondered how to change your life don’t worry, it’s a pretty common thing for people to ask themselves when they find themselves in a place of discomfort. First I try to help them understand this statement. When someone says “You’ve Changed” It simply means you’ve stopped living your life their way. Who are you living your life for? That might sound like a crazy question to ask but I think in reality many of us are living our life to receive an affirmation or a blessing from someone. We all want our life to be validated. We want others to affirm the path we have chosen to follow. In reality we will never receive the affirmation we desire unless we live our life the way they want us to. So I come back to my first question, ”Who are you living your life for?” “I love this quote…”The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide our problems are your own. You do not blame them on anyone or anything. You realize that you control your own destiny.” – Albert Ellis Ahhh, there’s that word “Destiny.” What Do We Want Our Life (Destiny) To Be About? Before we decide to change our life, we better decide what we want our life to be about. If you had to write down on paper what your life would look like a year, three years, and five years from now, what would write? Describe the different aspects of your life. Where would you be...