Decisions Shape Our Destiny to Get More Out of Life

Decisions Shape Our Destiny to Get More Out of Life

A lady walks into a drug store and tells the pharmacist she needs some cyanide.

The pharmacist said, “Why in the world do you need cyanide?

The lady then explained she needed it to poison her husband.

The pharmacist’s eyes got big and he said, “Lord, have mercy — I can’t give you cyanide to kill your husband! That’s against the law! I’ll lose my license, they’ll throw both of us in jail and all kinds of bad things will happen! Absolutely not, you can NOT have any cyanide!”

The lady reached into her purse and pulled out a picture of her husband in bed with the pharmacist’s wife.

The pharmacist looked at the picture and replied, “Well, now. You didn’t tell me you had a prescription”

It is the decisions not the conditions of your life that determine your destiny.

Do You Want to Get More Out of Life?

In China there is a bamboo tree, when planted, watered and fertilized, doesn’t show any evidence of growth for the first four years.However, in the fifth year, the bamboo tree starts to grow and GROW…

.In just 6 weeks that follow, the Chinese bamboo tree will grow as much as 3 feet per day; it continues to grow until more than 90 feet in height.

Now, did the bamboo tree grow in six weeks or did it take five years to grow?Our life is often like the bamboo tree.

It can be very discouraging if we don’t see the results we want after working hard. But, this is the key in making decisions that will shape our destiny.

There is a substantial difference in being interested in something and being committed to it.

Statements such as “I’d really like to make more money” or “I’d like to make a difference” or “I’d like to be closer to my kids,” or “I’d like to give up smoking” is just stating a preference.

These statements are very weak and hold no power. The power comes when you decide to be committed.

You know the old story of how to boil a frog.

You don’t put him in a pot of boiling water. You drop him in the boiling water and he’ll jump out before he’s injured.

So you put him in a pot of cold water, and he’s perfectly comfortable. Then you put him on the stove, and little by little the water gets warm.

It’s very pleasant at first. Then it gets to Jacuzzi level, and he begins to be a little alarmed. Finally, when it’s boiling, it’s too late.

We are like that, aren’t we? We get into the world and it’s oh so pleasant at first.

And then it gets a little warmer and it’s pleasanter yet.

And one day we realize the danger: “This is going to kill me, and I haven’t the strength to get out!”

The word ‘decision’ in reality comes from the Latin root meaning to ‘cut off from.’

Making a true decision means committing to achieving a result and then cutting yourself off from any other possibility

A proactive choice is a momentum-building decision.

A reactive choice is an inertia-sustaining decision. Even not deciding and letting conditions control you is a decision

Where Focus Goes Energy Flows

So you can focus on the past vs. the future -whatever you decide to focus on will affect your emotional state.

What influences us?

1. Our life experience  

2. Our culture,

3. People who are surrounding us.

How to Get the More Out of Life

1. Become aware of  your emotions.

The emotional memory from past experience still brings echoes into your mind that can influence your decisions.

2.  Self examination

Be willing to do some examination into the bad decisions you made .

Why did you make those decisions? What influenced you?

3. Surround yourself

Make an effort to surround yourself with people you respect.

Talk to them about how the process they use in making hard decisions.

 4. Forgive yourself and others for the past

When we are not able to forgive, the echoes of our wounds will influence our decisions today.

Sometimes it means we need to forgive ourselves. When we don’t forgive ourselves, we get stuck in believing we are not good enough to enjoy the fullness of life.

There was a little boy visiting his grandparents on their farm. He was given a slingshot to play with out in the woods. He practiced in the woods; but he could never hit the target.

Getting a little discouraged, he headed back for dinner. As he was walking back he saw Grandma’s pet duck. Just out of impulse, he let the slingshot fly, hit the duck square in the head and killed it.

He was shocked and grieved! In a panic, he hid the dead duck in the wood pile; only to see his sister watching! Sally had seen it all, but she said nothing.

After lunch the next day Grandma said, “Sally, let’s wash the dishes” But Sally said, “Grandma, Johnny told me he wanted to help in the kitchen.

Then she whispered to him, “Remember the duck?” So Johnny did the dishes.

Later that day, Grandpa asked if the children wanted to go fishing and Grandma said, “I’m sorry but I need Sally to help make supper.”

Sally just smiled and said, “Well that’s all right because Johnny told me he wanted to help” She whispered again, “Remember the duck?

So Sally went fishing and Johnny stayed to help.

After several days of Johnny doing both his chores and Sally’s; he finally couldn’t stand it any longer. He came to Grandma and confessed that he had killed the duck.

Grandma knelt down, gave him a hug and said, “Sweetheart, I know you did. See, I was standing at the window and I saw the whole thing, but because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long you would let Sally make a slave of you.


Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.
William Jennings Bryan

May you live into your destiny today.

Be a Miracle


1 Comment

  1. Good stuff Jerry! I love how the stories pull your points together. Keep up the great work.


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